Back of the bread

Back of the bread is the flour
and back of the flour is the mill
and back of the mill is the wind and the rain
and the Father’s will

This is a season for the celebration of what saves us.  As we enter Holy Week and Passover, we walk right into terrifying stories of the worst humanity has to offer. In their brutality and starkness, we can see echoes of the forces that threaten our own lives – the fears for our own survival that can feel overwhelming. In the midst of this, it is a particularly religious thing to do to find ways to share a sacred meal. Seder and communion are two of the most visceral reminders of what saves us.

Each year as we prepare for our Palm Sunday communion service in my church, since we do communion only once or twice a year, there is the question: what to do about the bread? Should we get traditional wafers? Buy grocery store unleavened bread? Just get good tasty yeast bread?

I have made it a habit to bake our communion bread myself. When I began to do this a few years ago, I compared recipes on line and chose one that looked like it might have good results. I didn’t have time to try out several, so it was going to be what it would be. Concern about the final product aside, I found myself thinking of each member of the congregation, person by person, as I baked the bread.

We clergy don’t often get to feel like we’re really able to let ourselves go and fully partake in the rituals we lead in worship. We’re often too worried about what’s going to happen next, or whether our instructions were clear, or why someone we see every Sunday is suddenly missing to actually let ourselves bask in the communal process of ritual. For me, baking the bread is now a way to do that in advance: to hold the community in my heart as my hands mix the flour and the water and the salt and the molasses, to massage the wounds that need healing as I press the loaves into flat rounds, to let go a few tears for the heartaches that I see folks carrying alone. It’s all baked into the bread.

This year, as I prepare to bake the bread, I am more aware than usual of the fears that are haunting us. Military actions in Libya and radiation and disaster relief in Japan and starvation in North Korea weigh heavy on our hearts and minds. Fights about the federal budget have us reeling with vitriolic rhetoric about who deserves what, while some people laugh all the way to the bank. Fear for our jobs and our marriages and our children’s health roil in us as we try to be responsible citizens of a larger world in need. Many of us feel vulnerable, grief-stricken, powerless.

As I bake the bread this year, as every year, I remind myself that this is one small step on the road to wholeness, to salvation: joining with others who are in need, admitting that need to the god who moves through us and among us and beyond us, vowing to turn our lives toward the new heaven and new earth that can come if only we can have the courage to see beyond our fears, and act beyond what we think is possible.

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Hungry

God bless to us our bread
and give bread to all those who are hungry
and hunger for justice to those who are fed
God bless to us our bread

There’s a beautiful sung litany of this common prayer with a pastoral prayer on one of the Iona Community’s CD’s.  It has been coming to me a lot lately as the political clashes over the US budget have escalated.  Bread for the World has sponsored a fast in solidarity with people whose basic needs will go unmet if the budget passes in its current state.  And articles are floating around the internet naming the causes of the budget impasse as the specific agenda of whichever side you don’t agree with.  I have some strong opinions about those agendas driving some of the most dangerous cuts, but I don’t find my sense of righteousness about those opinions to be all that helpful for living in what feels like a very dangerous time.  The budget cuts threaten more than just food programs, but the whole debate has arisen a hunger in me that is deep.

I worry that we are stepping away from our humanity, away from that possibility for goodness born into each and all, instilled in us by the creative spirit who breathed us to life.  These budget priorities are born from willfully forgetting that the way God gives bread to those who are hungry is through the power of human hands, human generosity, human ingenuity.  When we stop praying that those of us who are fed might be filled with the hunger for justice, we forget that such hunger comes from knowing our connection, knowing how we are implicated in our neighbors’ hunger, knowing that we can do something about it.

The pain grips my belly as I consider how much power, how many resources, and how much ingenuity we have in this nation, and it closes in for a nice big cramp when I hold that up against the fact that one in every four children in the US struggles against poverty.  In what we call the wealthiest nation in the world.

In the words of Frederick Buechner:

When Jesus commanded us to love our neighbors as ourselves, it was not just for our neighbors’ sakes that he commanded it, but for our own sakes as well.  Not to help find some way to feed the children who are starving to death is to have some precious art of who we are starve to death with them.  Not to give of ourselves to the human beings we know who may be starving not for food but for what we have in our hearts to nourish them with is to be, ourselves, diminished and crippled as human beings.[1]

In this Lenten season of fasting and contemplation, I pray that we might all join Bread for the World, Faithful America, and others in prayer and action.  The blessing must move through us if it is to be real.


[1] “The News of the Day” in Secrets in the Dark: A Life in Sermons, page 250. (Harper SanFrancisco, 2006)

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Deepening the well

Yesterday, a group of ten youth in our church celebrated their Coming of Age. Traditionally, Unitarian Universalist youth come of age by undertaking a period of study and discernment and then writing a credo statement, a statement of individual beliefs. Because our faith has no central creed, it’s important that we become conversant in the ways of formulating and deepening our belief systems, and so this practice is the center of Coming of Age. It’s always a moving ceremony, and one that families take very seriously. This year, however, was remarkable. Here are some of the reasons why:

As a team, the DRE, our intern minister and I decided that the central thing that youth should be introduced to as our practice of faith was not simply honing one’s own unique position, but bringing those individual convictions into community and finding common ground. The adult community had just completed revision of our covenant last fall, and that practice of common meaning-making is a foundational practice of Unitarian Universalist faith.

Our intern minister introduced them to the “Things Commonly Believed Among Us” proposed by William Channing Gannett at the Western Unitarian Conference in 1887. As they worked at formulating their own statements of values and religious ideas, they had a series of conversations that led them to a list of things that they believed in common. The “Ten Things Commonly Believed Among Us” became the basis for the worship service in which they came of age.

Each youth took one of the common beliefs and, in their own words, elaborated on its meaning. Thanks to the coaching of our intern minister, youth advisor, their mentors and each other, these statements included real theological depth and were illustrated with stories of their lives. From Charles Hartshorne to A. Powell Davies to Martin Luther King, Jr. to Jesus and meditation manuals, they drew on rich foundations for their beliefs.

It was truly remarkable to see a group of Unitarian Universalist youth who understood that their faith had depth and a long, rich history and tradition. Not a one would tell you now that a UU can “believe whatever they want.” It was a joy to hear them articulate the ways that this faith could be a deep foundation for them as they continue the spiritual journeys of their lives.

I have recently been reminded of the prevailing notion that our support for the ‘free and responsible search for truth and meaning’ often results in supporting our youth on their journey out of our faith. I wish that for more of us it was a deep well, and one that could be sustaining through the spiritual explorations of a lifetime. I want to ask our youth, all of them, to stay with us. I want to make this a faith that is compelling and deep and rich for their whole lives long. I don’t want to lose another one, because we need them on this journey. They have no way of knowing that if we don’t tell them so, and they have no way of developing a deep and sustaining faith unless we make it so.

May we make it so.

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Now Ruz Mobarak

It’s the Persian New Year, Now Ruz!

Celebrated on the vernal equinox, the moment of earth’s perfect balance.  The holiday honors life and our wishes to live it unencumbered, asking us to take time to ask and offer forgiveness, to give up what has been holding us back and take up new possibility.  It’s a time to let new winds blow through our homes and our hearts so that we might feel the spirit enlivening us for the year to come.

In my heart and on my mind today are those who are living in the midst of the possibility for new and liberated lives.  The people of Ivory Coast and Bahrain and Tunisia and Egypt and Iran and especially Libya.  People who are waiting to find out if their treatments for cancer or MS or any number of other things have brought about the results they wish for.  People who are working to mend relationships, and people who are making new lives after unmendable relationships have ended.  People who are living on the edges of addiction, poverty, incarceration whose lives are full of insight and possibility though the world may want to look the other way.  All of us, making sense of how to live a new future with the weight and the wisdom of where we have been.

My Now Ruz prayer is for the fresh winds of the spirit to move through us all.  May we find the time to lay down our heaviest burdens even for a moment, to imagine ourselves light enough to take flight on that wind.  May those who have learned the secret of soaring have the patience to coax others on; and may the sun shine brightly on each of us, wherever we are on the path.

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The hard work of leaning into love

This is a homily I gave in January of 2010, as part of a series on salvation.  In light of the current furor over Rob Bell’s new book “Love Wins” it seems worth posting.

The notion that someone would be destined to hell for not believing as I do is one that I reject outright.  I’ve been saying it just that plainly and matter-of-factly so long that it’s easy to forget how radical a message it still is to much of the world.  I’ve also been saying it so simply that sometimes I’m stopped short when I have to consider what it takes to live this theology not as a statement to explain what “Universalism” means to folks who ask what I do for a living, but what it means as a faith stance I take seriously and want to live.

What percentage of your time do you spend thinking about hell?    Few religious liberals tend to spend a lot of time entertaining thoughts of hell: pro, con, or otherwise.

If we frame our description of Universalism, then, in terms of not believing in hell, it can be easy to say it has nothing to do with us in modern times – we’ve grown past a regular notion of a punishing God, and we accept that there is truth in different faith paths.

The notion of universal salvation pre-dates Christianity, but the official name ‘Universalism’ didn’t come up until the mid-1700’s in England.  Soon after, a preacher and theologian named Hosea Ballou made it famous in the United States.  Ballou believed that the notion of  a punishing, judging God was not one that would inspire the best to come forth in God’s people.  He was concerned that the competition for salvation in fact brought out the worst in people, and that if folks simply took pleasure in living a moral life and doing good works they would find themselves reconciled to God.  Now, you can see that his approach sounds a little naïve: we know that it’s not so simple as saying “God loves you, now don’t you want to do the right thing?”

The idea that everyone is already saved is profoundly challenging.

Those of us who go about our lives earnestly trying to do the right thing know that it’s hard work.  Even when we’re working hard at it, it’s not always clear what the right thing is.

We want to know that effort is good for something, that it distinguishes us in some way.

Even if we’re not pinning our hopes on heaven, we want to be seen and known as the folks who have tried their best.

We don’t have to be believers in a saving God or in hell to find ourselves bound in habits of thinking that say our goodness is a zero-sum game.  As we strive to be good people, we can’t help but take some notice of those who, to put it nicely, may not be striving quite so hard as we are.  In our habits of thought, we distinguish our own goodness by negative judgments of others.

I am embarrassed to realize how much I do this myself.  It came to me clearly and somewhat comically while I was driving to the gym early one morning.  Now, we all know that early in the new year is a time when everyone makes their vows anew to practice their intentions with new discipline.  Especially after the indulgences of the holidays the gym is one of the places those intentions are carried out.  On this particular morning, I was very aware that the group exercise class I enjoy on Tuesday mornings was going to be filled to the brim, and I was racing to get there in time to stake out a spot.

I was not feeling charitable toward the interlopers who were inconveniencing me with their superficial commitment. “Just wait a few weeks and we’ll be back to normal” advised a friend.  Not only did I know it was true, I actively wished for the failure of my fellow gym members to come sooner.  I had won my place through hard work, for goodness sake, why should I have to make room for people who aren’t as serious, as committed… alright, let me just say it: as good as I am?

I don’t actively believe in or think about my own salvation, and I certainly don’t consciously tie it to my gym membership.  But this habit of thinking in even trivial ways shows a distance between my professed belief and my lived belief.  I caught myself this time, and asked what it would mean to live my Universalism in relationship to my neighbors and the gym.

It took admitting that I was trying to get some ‘credit’ for the hard work I’ve put in at the gym by assuming it earned me a higher place in the order of things.  It meant admitting that until two years ago, I was fairly often one of the ones who would sign up in the first week of January, go two or three times a week for a month, and then let the membership lapse by May.

But the crux of the matter was that if I was going to the gym regularly to prove myself more disciplined, tougher, or simply superior to those who did not go, I was doing it for the wrong reasons.  If I was doing it for my health and well-being, doing it was its own reward.

There was no reason for that same opportunity for health and well-being to be generously available to any and all comers.  In fact, the more of us pursuing that and joining the gym, the more services the gym could provide and the more healthy women there would be in the community.  A greater good all around.

Modern Universalism, if we are to really live it, asks us at every turn to replace habits of thought and action rooted in competition with the lived awareness of our radical kinship.  Universalism not only says that there is room for all of us, but that each and every one of us can be an important part of the healing and the hope of the world.

As the late Forrest Church sums it up, “Universalism says good behavior unites and heals; bad behavior destroys and divides.”

The reward for our goodness is the magnified expression of healing and connection; it is finding greater communion with the unifying source of our being and our destiny.

We know our faith is connecting us with that greatest good when our habits of mind and heart are helping us to heal our lives, inspiring us to reconcile with our neighbors, and helping us, as Church puts it, “plant our feet firmly on the ground of our being.”

We are surrounded by, held by a love that will not let us go.

All that love asks of us is that we magnify its presence in the world.

We are humbled, knowing that none of us has the whole picture of the scope of that sacred presence, but that each of us is a unique expression of it in the world.

If we tune our lives to the living that love, to seeking that truth that both shines through us and greater than all of us, we do indeed find healing, wholeness.

Salvation.

So may it be.

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One in sin

“…if we are not yet one in love at least we are one in sin, which is no mean bond because it precludes the possibility of separation through judgment.” (William Sloane Coffin)

There is a Facebook status cut-and-paste floating around in the wake of last Friday’s tsunami that reads:

Sept 11th (NY) Jan 11th (Haiti) and March 11th (Japan) …. Luke 21: 10-11 Then Jesus said to his disiples: “Nations will rise against nations, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be great earthquakes, famines and pestilences in various places, and fearful events and great signs from heaven. Jesus says for behold I come quickly. So, ask yourself “Am I ready?” (It’s sad to say many won’t repost this message)

There are apples and oranges mixed up here (a terrorist attack versus two natural disasters), and dates confused (the Haiti earthquake was on January 12, 2010), but I must admit that it’s hard not to go to that place where we feel the sequence of all this devastation has some kind of lesson in it.  Because if there is no lesson in it, those lives do seem all to be lost in vain, don’t they?

We need to be careful with the speed at which we draw those lessons, though.  If we are in fact being asked to wake up, what is it that we should be noticing?  What new ways of living and being beckon us to the other side of grief and heartache?

The Rev. William Sloane Coffin’s words are with me this day, as I ponder the rush to some judgment read under the surface of the horrors we see.  Universalism asks me to ponder in my heart all the ways we truly are connected, our destinies one, and to ask how beyond the bond of our separation from love we might grow into our connection by divine love.

God who arrives not in wind or earthquake or fire, but in the sheer silence that follows them all, hold our heavy hearts in these days of our awe at the forces we cannot control.  Stand by us as we sink deep into the truth of our vulnerability.  Hold our hands as we grasp for answers that we think will soothe, so that we may keep them free for the work ahead, of building new meaning and new promise out of the rubble of these days’ tragedies.  Grant us the peace of the everlasting, as we face all that does perish.  Amen.

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Who She Was

Large on my mind this week has been the distinct privilege it is to do the work of preparing a memorial service.  My sabbatical was interrupted with the death of a longtime member of the congregation, for which I emerged to offer the memorial (against official sabbatical rules).  My agreement with myself was that I wouldn’t do it if I was going to feel any shred of resentment about it during or afterward.  What I found was that I was, as always, moved deeply by the process of learning of a remarkable person through the memories and affections of those who knew her best.

It’s a process I love because there is an incredible intimacy to it that we rarely have the privilege of in life.  It’s not that people share stories that are different than they told while their loved one was breathing; it’s that there is a quality to the way they are told, a deep recognition and even deeper truth in the moments that words catch unexpectedly in the throat and the swirl of emotions circle far beyond the grasp of words.

There is an art to capturing not just the facts of a life, but the being that meant so much to the loved ones, and the practice of listening for the fullness of the person through the memories of others, layering them upon my own experience, and crafting it into a fitting tribute.  It’s a practice I can’t do without, spiritually, because it brings me into the most conversations with God.  As I learn the details of a life of one of God’s children, I’m awed again and again at the many ways we are shaped and shape others.  I am brought to tears at the way the sacred works in and through us to make the world as it is, and the ways that the world as it is circumscribes so much of who we are and who we become.  I speculate about the meaning of this one life, and am changed — inspired, cautioned, instructed, challenged — as I take those lessons into my own.  And each time I do it,  I become more and more convinced that no matter how abstract our notion of God, there is a power to letting ourselves nestle into the Everlasting Arms as we hold the fullness of any one of our lives.

There is a communion in the moment that the living are gathered in a sacred place to remember the one who has passed, and I can always feel the breath of God moving through the gathered people like a summer evening’s warm breeze.  It brings solace and comfort, and also the awareness that this moment will not last, and a challenge to make something of its memory when we leave the company of one another.

People are not fond of thinking about their own funeral or memorial service, in general.  Folks find it morbid or perhaps are worried that they are tempting fate.  For me there is no greater place to get in touch with the value and the splendor of a life than to consider how it will be remembered.  And there is no greater purpose for church community than helping people live the kind of lives that will be remembered well: lives of service and courageous choices, lives of deep relationship and clear intention toward the good.  Then, when the time comes to say goodbye, there are people who can bear witness to the fullness of all that was, and carry forward the best, as they hymn says, “in unbroken line.”

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fear my pastor will make me pray in public

This is my favorite so far of the search engine terms that have brought people to this blog. It makes me smile every time I look at it. That may seem cruel, since I’m sure that one wouldn’t put that statement into a search engine without some serious angst. So forgive me if you’re reading this because you put exactly that combination of words in a blank box and hoped for an internet miracle.

Because that, I don’t have.

What I do have is this simple truth about prayer: the words don’t matter.

I say this as a lover of words, and a lover of putting them together and then spending hours deciding if they’re too trite or too convoluted or too long-winded or just too too. I spend much of my days doing it and then marveling at how little I am paid for my long hours of toil. But it’s true: the words don’t matter. I say this in many more words than it should take, and none of them matter, either.

What matters is that there’s this thing deep in you that needs to come out and it needs to connect, or to make itself known. It needs a quiet place to really find itself. And then it needs to come out however it will, and as much as it can, just to say the thing that only can be said at that moment, by you, to the God who had some part in making you, and making you someone who would pray just like that.

And whatever comes should be good enough for any pastor, and any public made up of God’s people.

So I hope your pastor makes you pray in public. And I hope you bring it on by singing, dancing, speaking, clapping, shouting, crying whatever that place in you is yearning to let out. God will be listening in the form of every other one of us who needs to do the same.

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That Special

A few weeks ago, I was picking my son up from camp and uncharacteristically arrived a few minutes early. It was the last day of camp for the week, and as part of their closing ritual they were giving out awards to each kid based on the most positive spin on their character. The formula was to describe all the characteristics, then pause dramatically before saying the name of the child.

The first child to get an award was lauded as “the most calm, collected, and thoughtful helper of all, who was always there with a considerate word for fellow campers and for the counselors.” When they said the name, up popped this skinny little five year-old girl, whose shoes looked like they could swallow her toothpick legs, and whose glasses were teetering heavily on her delicate face. She was adorable in the way that made me want to be able to follow her around through her childhood just to make sure no one is mean to her.

As soon as she heard her name, she exclaimed “Me? Really?” in the most sincere and genuine way, and turned bright red with what looked like a mixture of pride, embarrassment and shock. She marched up to get her construction-paper award, and on the way back, shaking her head, exclaimed with complete sincerity: “I had no idea I was that special!”

And then my eyes began to leak.

Eternal spirit, creator of all,

help us to nurture in each person the deep and unshakable understanding of the blessing of their being. Let none ever doubt that they are that special, that loved, that magnificent. Let the truth of it be known at our core, far past our culture’s thin veneer of meaningless affirmations. Help us to know the real thing by its failure to be drawn in to pettiness or self-aggrandizement, by its constant reminder that the God that makes one of us beloved makes us all beloved. May the power of that be-loved-ness be a source of great strength, so that we might meet its demand that we work for justice. May it fuel our courage to live and work for and with others. May we find the path to peace by making our home in the landscape of compassion.

Amen.

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Prayer for Knoxville

Delivered at the opening of the UU Musicians’ Network Conference in Boston, August 5, 2008.

Spirit of life, visit us with your power.

Come to those who are still reeling from the trauma of violence in Knoxville, come to those who are feeling desperate and fearful, come to those of us who are newly aware of the fragility of life and the vulnerability of our beings.

We lift up in our midst the names of our brother and sister whose lives were lost to violence born of anger and alienation:  Greg McKendry and Linda Kraeger.  May their memories be a blessing to all who knew them, and may their nearest and dearest family and friends be held in the wide open embrace of love as they encounter the depths of their loss.

We send prayers of comfort and healing to those recovering physically from injuries sustained in the attack: Jack Barnhart, Linda Chavez, Tammy Sommers, Joe Barnhart, John Worth, Linda Barnhart and Allison Lee.  May their loved ones and caregivers be held in care and sustained by the power of hope.

Spirit of life, spirit of creative possibility, spirit of unending love,
come to those who are living in fear and uncertainty, who have been directly shaken by the desperate acts of a man possessed by anger and despair.  Let them feel the power of our love surrounding them, the strength of their own community upholding them, and the power of the living god moving in and among them.  Lift them up, embrace them, infuse them with the breath of life that heals and endures.

Let our hands, connected in this room, our arms aching to hold and comfort our family of faith in Knoxville, feel the source of life moving through them.

As we feel our own vulnerability, let us feel strengthened in community.  May these roots indeed hold us close to the source of all, so that we might feel nourished by the compassion and the passion for life and for justice that are the source of our growth.

Let our wings set us free to soar and see the ways this tragedy among our own family of faith connects us with those around the world experiencing the violence born of desperation, a world where too many are forgotten.  As we pray for our beloved kin in Knoxville, and let us also send our prayers to all those who feel lost or abandoned, whose lives have turned them toward violence as the only solution.   Let Jim Adkisson be held in the midst of his pain, and on the path toward justice let there be healing.   May love free us from the bonds of fear and help us honor the sacred spirit in each and all.

Let that great love that lifts us up, moves us forward, and gives us courage help us to find strength and solace in one another.

Amen.

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